Toxic bosses. Unclear priorities. Whiplash changes. When workplaces feel non‑coherent—unpredictable, unsafe, and disrespectful—most of us do what we’ve been trained to do: push harder, blame louder, or numb out. Yet there’s another option. Through resonance, we can create coherence around us, even when the environment isn’t offering it to us.

Resonance is the felt alignment between our inner state and our actions. It’s the quiet click when what we value, perceive, and do are in tune. In Life Repatterning, resonance isn’t magic thinking—it’s a practical way to influence complex systems. Small, wise shifts inside you ripple outward, shaping meetings, decisions, and relationships in surprising ways.

Complexity theory gives us language for this. Workplaces are living systems: many parts interacting, feedback loops everywhere. You can’t control a complex system, but you can influence it. Like a butterfly’s wings nudging weather patterns, micro‑shifts in awareness and behavior can seed coherence—clearer norms, steadier rhythms, more humane choices.

When non‑coherence shows up, most of us slip into one of four stances:

1. Deluded Heart:we excuse or rationalize harmful behavior to keep the peace.
2. Victim:we feel powerless and outsource agency—“look what they’re doing to us.”
3. Manipulator: we lean on guilt, obligation, or back‑channeling to feel safe.
4. Mastery:we act with clarity and care, shaping the reality we want to inhabit.

Mastery is not dominance. It’s resonance.It’s the capacity to hold awareness and love or unity at the same time—clear boundaries, compassionate tone. From here, you don’t need perfect conditions to lead; you create conditions worth following.

How do we move toward mastery in the middle of a messy week?

1. Sense the field, not just the facts.  Pause before you respond. Ask your Wise Self: “What’s actually happening in me, between us, and around us?” In Life Repatterning, we use a simple Toggle Check—feel for the path that has the most energy and integrity right now. The goal isn’t certainty; it’s coherence.
   
   
2. Choose one resonant micro‑shift.  Complex systems respond to small, well‑placed moves. For example,name the pattern rather than the person: “We’re rewarding urgency over clarity; can we slow the decision by one hour?”Set a boundary with care: “I’m available until 5; after that I’ll respond tomorrow.” Orreplace ambiguity with rhythm:“Let’s start with 10 minutes of priorities, then decisions, then owners.”
   
   
3. Lead with presence, not pressure.  Your state is contagious. When you’re regulated, others can co‑regulate. Breathe, soften your jaw, unclench the hands. Speak slower than the room. Ask two questions before giving one directive.
   
   
4. Build micro‑rituals of coherence.  Tiny rituals compound: a weekly 15‑minute “sense‑check,” a shared definition of “urgent,” a standing agreement to capture decisions in two lines. These are resonance anchors—small agreements that reduce noise and increase trust.
   
   
5. Keep the compassion boundary.   Coherence does not mean capitulation. You can love people and refuse harmful dynamics. “I care about this team, and I won’t participate in public shaming. Let’s step aside and address the issue directly.”

As resonance grows, you’ll notice shifts that look like luck but are really alignment: meetings that end sooner because the purpose is clear, tense conversations softened by naming what’s true, teams choosing steadiness over spectacle. Insights arise that you couldn’t have forced and wouldn’t have predicted. What felt like breakdown reveals itself as reorganization.

The gift of this approach is freedom: you become present to what is, open to what could be, and courageous enough to act. You don’t need the org chart to change to start leading differently. Coherence is a practice, not a permission slip.

If your workplace feels chaotic this week, choose one moment to practice resonance. Sense the field, make one micro‑shift, and watch for ripples.

What single shift would bring the most integrity and ease into your next meeting?

Ready to move from reaction to resonance? Don’t stay stuck in victim, delusion, or manipulation. Choose mastery and create coherence you can feel. I can help—explore Business Support:https://lighttravels.com/BusinessSupport.

with care and coherence

Carolyn Winter, Founder of Life Repatterning

List in hand, I ducked into one of my favorite box stores—Canadian Tire—intent on finding aisle 25 and a pack of lightbulbs. Two steps past the carts, though, I was whisked onto “Christmas Street”: Autumn's plants and patio transformed into twinkling magic, a cheerful mechanical Santa waving hello. I kept walking—until the next display stopped me cold. A whole holiday village, tiny trains circling to soft music, parents and kids standing shoulder to shoulder, just…pausing. No purchases. Just wonder. I lingered, breathed, and let it fill me before heading back to my list.

The Mindful Holiday Season

From work windups to tables full of friends, from game days to late-night scrolling, from mall blitzes to family plans landing all at once… ’tis the season of too much to do and not quite enough elves.

Energetically, we’re moving from autumn’s Metal element—abundance, appreciation, recognition, value—toward December’s Water Element: reflection, calm, inner wisdom. The solstice on December 21 invites a quieter current. You don’t have to stop; you can simply soften.  ( See 5 Seasons Repatterning Metal / Water)

I like to think of this as the season of the heart—acceptance, love, kindness, and compassion taking the lead.

There’s a generous hum in the air right now. If we tune to it, it tunes us back.

Try this:

• Taste: Notice how pumpkin spice quietly gives way to gingerbread and holiday spice. Savor the way a home-baked cookie somehow tastes like a memory. Let “a little more special” be enough.
• Listen: Hear the ebb and flow of crowds and traffic. Beneath the bustle are shared feelings of the season, humming worry. What do you tune into? Hold a small candle in your heart for strangers—your steady presence helps more than you know.
• Wish: Bless complete strangers as you pass—better weather, smoother traffic, the right timing. Notice the single parents doing the math and magic. Send them a quiet miracle from your heart to theirs.
• Marvel: Admire the snow’s soft choreography. Appreciate the neighbor shoveling, the crews clearing, the staff keeping lights on through long holiday hours.
• Slow: What you notice is what you resonate with—and what you resonate with is what you broadcast. Choose your station. Let it be gentle. 

Set one clear intention for your holiday season. Write it on paper or a phone sticky note you’ll actually see. Your noticing will create a simple magic more than you expect.

If this season brings stress or sorrow—if relationships feel tender or thin—please don’t carry it alone. Holidays can brush old bruises, so reach for a hand: coffee with a friend, book with a counsellor or therapist, or a Life Repatterning session with me to gently shift your frequency - just the act of scheduling tells your system, “Help is on the way,” and pressure often eases the moment you do. Tell the truth about what hurts and what you’re hoping for; journaling may also help. 

I’m here to support—just reach out.

In the meantime, let the little things find you. Pause. Taste. Listen. Marvel. Wish. The season will meet you there.

With love and light 

 Carolyn 

Life Repatterning Coach

We often treat workplace conflict as a skill gap—needing better communication, stronger feedback, clearer goals. Useful, yes. But beneath stubborn patterns on teams—power struggles, role confusion, reactive decision-making—there’s often an echo from elsewhere: the relational templates we grew up with.

In one of my recent online sessions, we explored  “Ancestral Echoes – Clearing Family Patterns,” a PHD (Personal Holographic Discoveries) group session that draws on constellation work to reveal and unwind the invisible loyalties that shape how we relate. While this work focuses on family systems, its impact shows up powerfully in the workplace. Here’s how.

First, role clarity. In families, love moves best when giving and taking are balanced and the order of time and responsibility is respected. At work, that translates to leaders leading and teams contributing as equals—without caretaking up the chain or rescuing sideways. When we carry a pattern of standing “above” a parent or choosing sides in old conflicts, it often repeats as over-functioning, micromanaging, or triangulation. Clearing the pattern helps us hold our role without collapsing into old dynamics. The result is steadier delegation, cleaner handoffs, and fewer “mystery” resentments.

Second, boundaries that are kind and reliable. If we learned that belonging required self-sacrifice or invisibility, saying no at work feels risky. Constellation work restores belonging by including what was left out and honoring the real order in the system. From that felt sense of inclusion, boundaries stop being hard or apologetic. They become clear commitments: what I will do, what I won’t, and how I’ll communicate changes. Teams feel it as psychological safety—less performative agreement, more honest alignment.

Third, conflict that softens. Many organizational fights are not about the stated issue; they’re about unresolved identification with someone who suffered earlier. In the field, these show up as disproportionate reactions to authority, chronic resistance to process, or recurring “us vs. them” splits between departments. When we see and release the entanglement, the heat drops. Arguments become shorter, decisions stick, and feedback lands without triggering the past.

Fourth, change that actually moves. Initiatives often stall because the system is carrying exclusions—voices or histories not acknowledged. Hellinger’s Orders of Love remind us: everyone who belongs has a right to belong. In business terms, when we respect origins, recognize contributions, and include what was sidelined, energy returns. Strategy finds traction not because we push harder, but because the field is coherent.

What makes this practical is that constellation work doesn’t analyze; it shows. Once you see the shape of a pattern, your body knows what to try differently: a leader sits back a bit and lets a team member step forward; a teammate stops rescuing and starts reflecting; a department acknowledges the origin story of a process before revising it. The shifts are often quiet and cumulative—less drama, more momentum.

In our PHD session, we create or update a vision intention that includes a meaningful family aspect, identify current issues arising from unresolved patterns, and set clear intentions aligned with belonging, order, and balanced exchange. You leave with a felt sense of support—both from your lineage and from a clearer inner stance—plus practical ways to show up differently at work right away.

If your team is cycling the same conflicts, if boundaries wobble, if decision-making feels oddly charged, this work can help. Expect fewer firefights, more clarity, and a kinder kind of accountability.

What repeating workplace pattern feels like an “echo” to you—and what might change if the original story finally found its rightful place?  

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Life Repatterning Coach

If clutter is just stuff, why does it feel so charged? Because every object carries a little current—memory, meaning, potential—and our spaces are conductors. When that current is coherent, the room hums. When it’s tangled, our nervous system picks up the static. Decluttering isn’t only a chore list; it’s an energetic practice of tuning the field we live inside.

So why don’t we resonate with it? First, clutter often buffers discomfort. Stacks and “just in case” items can keep us from feeling emptiness, grief, or decisions we’d rather postpone. Second, our culture rewards accumulation and conflates abundance with quantity, so letting go can feel like losing safety or status. Third, our bodies remember. Past scarcity, family rules about gifts and heirlooms, or the fear of making a “wrong” choice create a low hum of anxiety that makes even a single drawer feel like a mountain.

Resonance begins when we match the work to our natural rhythm instead of trying to conquer it. Think breath, not battle. Choose one micro-territory—a shelf, a surface, a single bag—and let it be a tuning fork. Name its purpose, hold each item long enough to feel its signal, and decide: does this object amplify my purpose, or scatter it? If it scatters, release it with a clear goodbye. If it amplifies, give it a true home so its signal stays strong.

As you practice, notice the subtle shifts. Air feels lighter. You move with fewer hesitations. Decisions elsewhere in life come quicker because the neural pathways for discernment are firing. Sleep deepens as your environment stops asking your attention to solve it. Relationships soften when you’re less overstimulated and more present. Opportunities land because there’s room for them to land.

Decluttering becomes magnetic when it aligns with values rather than aesthetics. “I create spaces that support my clarity and service” has more pull than “I should be tidy.” Rhythm matters, too. Short, honest sessions—ten minutes with a timer, one category per day, a weekly reset ritual—entrain steadiness far better than occasional marathons that spike stress and rebound into clutter. Invite your senses to help: fresh air through a window, a grounding tone, a drop of lemon for clarity. Let your body feel the difference you’re making.

Most importantly, honor the cycle. Nature doesn’t apologize for shedding. You’re not failing when items accumulate; you’re simply at the next exhale. When you treat releasing as a return to flow rather than a referendum on your worth, resistance loosens. What remains is a quiet, palpable coherence: objects that earn their place, pathways that welcome you, and an inner voice you can finally hear.

What small territory could you tune today so the rest of your life can hear the note and join in?

With love and light 
Carolyn 

As the sun reaches its zenith and summer unfolds in all its glory, nature offers us profound wisdom about relationships. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, summer belongs to the Fire Element – the very energy that governs our heart, joy, and capacity for authentic connection.

Think of how summer naturally draws us together. We gather for barbecues, meet friends at the beach, and linger in conversation during long, warm evenings. This isn't just coincidence – it's our natural resonance with Fire Element energy at its peak. Just as a campfire creates a natural circle of warmth and community, summer's energy invites us to examine and enhance our connections.

But what makes a relationship truly empowering? Like a well-tended flame, healthy relationships provide warmth without burning us out. They create space for both personal growth and meaningful bonds. When we're in balance with Fire energy, we naturally attract and sustain relationships that uplift rather than deplete us.

This season offers a perfect opportunity to reflect on our relationship patterns. Are your connections energizing you like a bright summer day, or leaving you feeling burned out? Summer's expansive energy supports us in releasing old patterns that no longer serve us and opening to new possibilities for authentic connection.

Consider using this time to:

• Notice which relationships bring warmth and joy to your life
• Examine where you might be giving away your power
• Explore new ways of connecting that honor both yourself and others
• Set intentions for relationships that support your spiritual growth

As the Fire Element peaks, we have extra support for transforming our relationship patterns. Like the summer sun nurturing growth in gardens, this energy can help us cultivate connections that truly empower and sustain us.

What better time than now to tend to the garden of your relationships?

With love and light 

Carolyn 

Life Repatterning Coach

Feeling overwhelmed, scattered, or stuck in worry-loops lately? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, finding balance can feel impossible. But there's an ancient secret that might just change everything - the Earth Element from Traditional Chinese Medicine.

Here's something fascinating: Chinese Medicine recognizes a hidden "fifth season" - those special transition weeks between seasons. Right now, as spring flows into summer, we're in one of these powerful Earth Element phases. It's like nature's built-in reset button!

What's the Earth Element All About?

Think of the Earth Element as your internal compass and anchor. When it's balanced, you'll feel:
• Grounded and stable
• Mentally clear and focused
• Deeply nourished
• Connected to your purpose
• Able to care for yourself without burnout

But when it's off-balance? That's when you might experience:
• Constant overthinking
• Energy crashes
• Boundary struggles
• Feeling disconnected
• Self-care challenges

Why This Matters Now

This spring-to-summer transition is your perfect opportunity to reset and rebalance. Just like the Earth provides a foundation for all life, your Earth Element creates the foundation for your wellbeing.

Want to know the best part? You can strengthen this element! Through Earth Element Repatterning work, you can transform worry into wisdom and build unshakeable inner stability.

Ready to harness this seasonal power? I'm offering special Earth Element Repatterning sessions designed specifically for this transitional period. Each session includes personalized techniques to help you find your center and maintain it.

Does this resonate with you? Share in the comments how the Earth Element shows up in your life. Do you feel grounded and stable, or are you experiencing some of these imbalances? Let's support each other in finding our center during this transformative time.

Remember: You deserve to feel as stable, supported, and nourished as the Earth itself.

With love and light 

Carolyn Winter

Life Repatterning Coach

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Thanks to Pixabay.com artist Jean Pierre Bellec

As a repatterning practitioner who regularly facilitates group sessions exploring consciousness development, I'm fascinated by how our creative expression naturally evolves as we grow through different levels of awareness. In my monthly PhD (Personal Holographic Discoveries) group work, I consistently observe how each stage of consciousness brings its own unique flavor to artistic expression.

At the earliest Magic (Magenta) level, art emerges as pure instinctual expression - think of children's finger paintings or prehistoric cave art. There's an unfiltered quality here, where creativity flows directly from sensation and emotion without self-consciousness. I smile, remembering a favorite art piece I created with the children in one of my first day care jobs.  While doing the late Friday afternoon weekly cleanup, I scrolled 8 feet of 36” wide butcher paper along the floor and dumped all of the leftover tempera paints in splotches along the center of the paper. Covering each of 5 children in garbage bag ‘smocks’ I invited them to hand-paint. They really got into the effects of mixing colors and creating movement on paper. It was a masterpiece I treasured for a number of years!

Moving into the Mythic (Amber) stage, we see art becoming more structured and traditional. Religious iconography, folk art traditions, and classical forms dominate. Artists at this level often focus on preserving cultural heritage and expressing eternal truths through established symbols and techniques. I always think of my grandmothers treasured print of the Last Supper hanging in the living room.

The Rational (Orange) level brings technical mastery and innovation. Here we find photorealistic paintings, architectural precision, and art that demonstrates skill and rational understanding. Think Renaissance masters who used mathematical principles in their compositions or modern digital artists pushing technical boundaries. This level reminds me of the puzzling yet delightful drawings of M.C. Escher.

At the Pluralistic (Green) stage, art becomes more experimental and inclusive. Mixed media installations, collaborative community art projects, and works that challenge cultural norms emerge. Artists here often focus on social commentary and giving voice to marginalized perspectives. Here I think of the many statement-type community quilts created to mobilize a community around a cause, such as the Aids Memorial Quilt. I remember how it took my breath away to see it pictured. 

The Integral (Teal) level introduces a fascinating synthesis. Artists begin weaving together multiple styles, traditions, and perspectives into coherent new forms. They might combine ancient techniques with modern technology or blend sacred geometry with abstract expressionism. The focus shifts to exploring consciousness itself through art. This level reminds me of Lawren Harris, a Group of Seven Canadian artist who did beautiful landscapes. In his later years, he began painting in abstracts and geometric shapes, completely different from when he first began. When asked about this change, he replied, “I am searching for the summit of my soul… up there where the universe sings.” 

At the highest stages (Turquoise and beyond), creative expression becomes increasingly subtle and profound. Art at these levels often touches the ineffable - think of certain minimalist Zen paintings or works that somehow manage to convey both emptiness and fullness simultaneously. LOL – this could very well describe my housekeeping! For this is a level of expression I have yet to understand. Suggest an example of this in the comments below.

What fascinates me most in my group sessions is watching how individuals naturally gravitate toward different forms of creative expression as their consciousness evolves. Someone might start with rigid, technically perfect works, then gradually loosen into more experimental forms as they develop. Others might begin with chaotic emotional expression and slowly discover deeper structure and meaning. It doesn’t matter where you are today, start creating and your expression will evolve with you.

The beauty of understanding these developmental stages is that it helps us honor all forms of creative expression as valid and necessary parts of human evolution. Whether we're looking at a child's first crayon drawing or a master's contemplative installation, each represents a perfect expression of that level of consciousness.

In my work, I've found that simply understanding this evolutionary arc helps creators relax into their current expression while staying open to natural development. There's no need to force "higher" forms - authentic growth happens organically as consciousness expands.

With light and love 
Carolyn 

Life Repatterning Coach

Happy New Year! I hope you and your family and friends enjoyed a wonderful holiday season. I love the turning of the calendar and this very first day of the new year especially brings me optimism. Energetically we are in the season of winter (in the northern hemisphere) owned by the element of WATER. The water element asks us to reflect, remain calm, be still... think about things. Our reflections can take us to the depths of our awareness, face new insights about our life with courage, cleanse us of all guilt, and inspire us with clever new actions to take. Think of snowy blizzard-like days, the calm of a lake frozen over, or Niagara Falls covered in ice, and feel the awesome power of Water Elements stillness within. "It's a great time to reflect!"

LIFE REFLECTION QUESTIONS THAT FEED OUR STAGES OF CONSCIOUS AWARENESS From my Life Repatterning - "Clearing the Seven Levels of Growth Towards Wholeness" there are questions that focus on each of the levels.  While we experience all levels simoutaneously - one is our center of gravity or primary level of awareness.  Taking time to reflect on these types of questions helps us to integrate the new things we have learned about life and living and creates a new way of being in the world. Indications that the next stage of awareness has arrived for you include feeling lighter, happier, more free, generous, and abundant.   "Our awareness expands."

THE QUESTIONS... There are no right or wrong answers here. Focus on the one or two questions you are most drawn to think about or the whole list as you wish! Spend time daydreaming about your answers and then make some key points for yourself. Magenta Level - Magical Thinking Stage If you could do anything and get away with it, what would you do? Red Level - Empowerment Stage We all have unique gifts and talents that we could consider our superpowers. What is yours and how will you use it to make a difference in 2025? Amber Level Belonging Stage What group affiliations do you need to let go of because they no longer serve your purpose? What new groups will you join this year that would help you learn new things or support your goals? Perhaps you need new friends? Orange Level Achievement Stage What achievements have gone unacknowledged that you are most proud of? Green Level Idealism Stage What current event in 2024 most broke your heart? Turquoise Level Stage of Wholeness If evolution picked your best quality or trait to improve humanity and embedded this trait in the next generation what would that be? When you resonate with your positive statements you tend to then experience them in your life. Watch what you wish for!

Let me know if you have any questions at carolyn@lighttravels.com.  Wishing you all the very best health, wealth, happiness, and joy with delightful unexpected surprises throughout the year With Love and Light  Carolyn  www.LightTravels.com  Carolyn@lighttravels.com

Adapted from my post at Repatterning Journal

 

Life Repatterning Understandings ...that change everything! 

From soup to nuts - politicians, brands, colors, families, our physical body, clothing, communities, processions', thoughts, feelings, values, - anything you can name or imagine has its own frequency expressed in cycles per second (how fast it vibrates).

Frequencies are attracted to each other as in 'like' attracts 'like'. It's like tuning into an old fashion radio station. Either you hear the station clearly or get static.

Similarly with any energy…. You either match a frequency and experience it as “ON” or don’t match it as in … “OFF”.

What you resonate with of course is what you then experience - good or bad.

We tend to not think about what is buzzing around in our orbit and often suffer the consequences of bad energy. The key here is to know that for everything you are experiencing... the only reason it shows up for you is that you have that exact vibration in your field of energy. So you have A MATCH!

DIY - Try it out for yourself with the exercise #3 on the Free- Resources page. (Login or Join as a Regular or Premium Members)

With light and love

Carolyn 

Life Repatterning Understandings ...that change everything! 

Time is a fickle thing. In new physics, past, present and future coexist simultaneously. Einstein is quoted as saying “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once.” “Time and space are modes by which we think and not conditions in which we live.” “The distinction between the past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.

While our resonant field is good at remembering our past, if we listen… our future self is energetically also whispering to us!

In medical journalist Lynn McTaggart's book The Intention Experiment, she describes the science research project that had people praying for patients of a hospice care type hospital of 600 patients. The control group received no prayers. The final result of the project was that the control group had the expected number of doctor/hospital visits and life expectation. The prayed for group had remarkably fewer hospital visits and lived a little longer than expected. BUT the real kicker was this...

All the patients randomly assigned to the experiment were merely their records from a number of years previous to the experiment. In other words, they had all died well before the experiment was conducted. For scientists this proved the non linear nature of time.

If you have ever joined one of my group sessions you know I often invite your active participation even when the event itself is over because "The Hologram is still anticipating you!"

DIY - Try it out for yourself with the exercise # 2 on the Free- Resources page.  (Login or Join as a free or premium member to access)

With light and love

Carolyn