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Are you tapping into the metal element energy of the fall season? Appreciation and acknowledgment are qualities activated at this time of year. It’s no coincidence that celebrations of Thanks Giving (both American and Canadian) are scheduled in this time period. Appreciation is a basic life need. If our needs for being validated and appreciated were not met at a young impressionable age, we can spend a lifetime trying to untangle from the pain of it. We become perfectionists, procrastinators or out of balance entertainers seeking attention where ever we can get it-positive or negative.
Chances are if no one modelled appreciation for you when you were young, you did not learn to do it for yourself and so the pattern persists . Your accomplishments may be long, but you are still driven to do more for the validation, appreciation or acknowledgement that you need. So how do we recover from the remnants of this early life pattern?
Appreciation both for yourself and giving it to others is a very powerful healing tool. When we feel appreciation our field of energy expands and we are motivated to do more for ourselves and others. You don’t need to wait for others to appreciate yourself. Something I learned sometime ago from Dr Dan Baker’s book “What Happy People Know” is that it is scientifically shown that you can’t be in a state of anxiety or worry AND appreciation at the same time. The brain can hold one emotion or the other but not both in the same moment.
Appreciation Rx - If you find yourself unreasonably anxious you could try his recommended exercise of naming what you appreciate about yourself and /or name your accomplishments however small. Actively writing out a list of appreciations for at least a minute will get you some temporary relief. Write for 10 minutes and you will kick start a new more positive brain wave that gets you out of the anxiety loop. Keep it up for an hour and you could be rewiring yourself for a better state of mind.
This week our Americans friends are celebrating Thanksgiving and my love, blessings and appreciation go out to all of you. Thank you for being part of the resonance repatterning community, for your referrals over the last year , for your emails of appreciation and stories of change. It is indeed a privilege to serve you.
Non Coherent Aspects -
Coherent Aspects -
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of APPRECIATION AND ACCOMPLISHMENT to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
With light and love
As of September 22, 2021 we are now in the seasonal energy of Metal Element that aligns with autumn in the northern hemisphere. Click here if you are in the southern hemisphere.
One of the most important repatterning topics I facilitate, especially with new clients, is the Parental Repatterning where we focus on our early relationship with one of our parents or primary caregivers and how they did or did not meet our basic life needs. These early parental patterns of non coherence have often set in motion a lifetime of limitations to help us avoid the pain or our needs not being met as we had wished. Our metal element quality focus for this week is on FATHERING.
What is your early experience of your father and your relationship to him?
Ideally, fathers set examples of right and wrong, teach their children values and ideals and being in right action. They can be counted on, trusted, and there to help us problem solve, to protect us and care for us. Filling a positive parenting role, fathers also teach us to set boundaries, be patient, how to discern things and be trusting, respectful and tell the truth. They help us to set goals and encourage us to reach them. As children, our fathers would take us seriously and listen to us or answer our questions.
If our fathers were not there for us as we needed, our metal element quality as adults may become harder to balance or maintain or certain things may trigger us. It may also be more difficult for us to stay in touch with our wise self throughout the day, the part of us that knows how to stay balanced and reach for appropriate behavior and action moment to moment.
How does your perception of your early experiences of your father relate to the obstacles or successes you experience today?
Improve your inner fathering quality with a visualization. Close your eyes and imagine your father and yourself at a pivotal time of your life. Even though he likely never said these things... imagine hearing him say messages such as the following to you...
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of FATHERING to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
With love and light
The fall drama of trees changing their colors ultimately with leaves fluttering to the ground is a colorful reminder of another vital quality of metal element and the fall season - LETTING GO.
The quality of letting go reminds us that 'to everything there is a season...' and that everything has it own life cycle. We can experience many benefits when we are in synch with this quality. For example we may become good at dealing with clutter as it arrives, we let go of things we no longer need perhaps recycling them or repurposing them. We can also let go of the old outdated ways of doing things making it easier to embrace new ways. And we are comfortable accepting things like the computer notice to allow a software update because we know letting go of the old program is a good option to keep our computer running efficiently.
This metal quality also helps us to embrace our own personal growth and integrate new patterns of well being by letting go of the old ways of being that no longer serve us. Often a major obstacle of achieving a higher energy state is that the old pattern feels familiar and comfortable and is easier to keep doing than breaking in a new more positive way of being - like an old pair of comfortable shoes. Cultivating an attitude of letting go of the old way helps us to grow in new desired ways. When we integrate the quality of letting go, we can feel lighter, more productive, and feel a sense of inner freedom.
Challenges: When we have difficulty letting go energy tends to get stuck in our field of resonance and shows up as road blocks in other areas of our lives. For example... our purpose may feel obscured and we can't see things clearly. We feel like we don't have enough time, energy, resources or space to take on new things or feeling frustrated that we are not accomplishing our goals. We may also miss opportunities because of the back log of things and situations we have yet to release. Looking after it all...wee tend to feel drained of energy. What can we do?
Take the time to notice what you are hanging onto in your life and what your thoughts are about each item? Let go of one thing you are ready to release - perhaps some desk top clutter. Notice how you feel with each conscious effort to let go of something. Consciously practice the quality of letting go. Chances are you will be energized.
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of LETTING GO to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
Do you tell the truth? ...or regularly engage in 'white lies', withholding the truth, or consciously lie to yourself and others? Imagine if you were the children's story Pinocchio character and every time you lied, your nose grew a bit longer. How long would your nose be at the end of the day?
The metal element quality of truth in many ways is a spiritual concept that we can cultivate and consequently use to grow our spiritual awareness or consciousness, taking us towards a path of inner peace and contentment.
Currently the nature of truth is hotly debated in politics and social media, with the public subjected to a daily brazen use of lying or bending the truth. These lies are designed to capture your attention to grow someone else's agenda or point of view. It is not usually based on truth or facts. Obscuring the truth is their primary weapon. In a world of challenges, the lack of truth may be one of the worst for creating misery in our lives. Whether we accept lies or tell them, we weaken our own energy field with self-doubt, lack of respect or lack of integrity and then wonder why we are unhappy.
Real truth has several qualities to look for - to begin with it is absolute - meaning it is what it is - not dependant on anything else. It also corresponds to reality or the way things are. You can recognize it when you see it and feel an inner alignment.
However, since our realities are based on our perspectives and beliefs this can make the truth muddy, because what may be true for you is not true for me. This is another instance where our personal work helps us to better 'see' the truth of our reality. We can in fact peel away layers of patterns until we get to the truth of a matter. Do you consciously or unconsciously accept a lie if it upholds your belief? How often do you tell yourself the truth?
When the quality of truth eludes us or is weak in our field of energy we are easily pulled in by the lies or the negative messages of others, malicious advertising or social media content. Author, Caroline Myss's quote is very apt here. "Watch where your brain goes to feed itself." Notice, if taking in negative stories and disputable facts draws your attention - your metal element may need balancing (or repatterning!).
Truth creates coherence....When we are telling, observing and living our truth, things line up in our field of energy and we feel a strong sense of inner harmony or coherence. We intuitively tend to look for the truth of a matter and facts to back it up, independant of our perspective. We feel at one with the world and totally aligned - even if the reality of some truths hurt. We know what's what or at least feel it as an embodied felt sense. When we are aligned with the quality of truth and living it - we avoid lying to ourselves and others and we can take unhesitating action and speak our truth in the moment without editing ourselves. We also have more energy because we are not constantly monitoring ourselves for the lies we are maintaining.
Can you find facts to support important truths in your life? Truth may take us some time to determine as we move through and heal our patterns of perceptions, values and beliefs. Energize your metal element energy by making a practice of searching for the truth and telling your own truth as much as possible.
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of TRUTH to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
Are You a Perfectionist Or Do You See the Perfection in Everything? ...
Closely related to last week's metal quality of VALUE is PEFECTION. Resonating with healthy forms of this quality helps us to do our best, and judge when doing our best is really not required or a poor use of inner resources. Coherent qualities of perfection allow us to see life's situations to be in perfect order and find the blessing in what ever we are facing. We can easily accept life as it is and work with what we have yet feel accomplished.
For example, recently I was working on a bag making project. At one point, I hunted high and low for my bottle of fabric glue to use on one of the finishing details. Once i resigned myself to not being able to find the glue, I thought of an even better way to finish the project. The glue reappear when no longer needed! It was perfect!
The non-coherent side of perfection is perfectionism where we are driven to be or appear to be perfect well beyond doing our best. In this state we are often immobilized to perform a task unless we know for sure in advance it will be perfect or keep working at it until it is. It's as though an inner critic sits on our shoulder throughout the day declaring a task not finished because it isn't perfect enough. Perfectionism also interferes with our use of time and timing as we tend to then procrastinate on tasks we don't feel we can do perfectly enough OR we take far too long to complete a task trying to make it perfect. Unfinished tasks then pile up in our life draining our energy.
How does the quality of perfection show up for you in your life? Consider how it affects your work, relationships, friendships, physical activity or your verbal expression? What negative feelings accompany this state of being? How do others react? What is the worst aspect of this quality for you?
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of PERFECTION to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
What do you value? ..I am always moved to tears to watch the news reports of victims from any number of natural disasters - fires, floods, earthquakes etc. Inevitably, survivors all say with devastation and sadness, that even though they lost many treasured things... they feel lucky that they or their family survived. "Everything else can be replaced"... is the usual refrain.
Coherent metal element does give us the ability to... value things that are important to us, as well as intangible qualities - intellectual gifts, personality, relationships etc. When our metal is coherent we take care of these things, give them a rightful place in our lives and feel energized by their presence in our life. And while we may value material things our coherent metal energy will help us determine what is of true importance and value for us - our family and other relationships.
When our metal element is non coherent we may find ourselves becoming very materialistic - wanting and acquiring things beyond our means to show off and build our self esteem. We may be inclined to hang onto things no longer knowing why we have them or its value to us. Evidence of this pattern may be found in over-flowing drawers, closets, garages, attics etc We may put down others in the workplace to make our own position more important or engage in nasty gossip for the same reason. We may also devalue ourselves and our gifts and talents.
Energize your Metal Element - Boost your metal element energy with this quick journaling exercise. Write out several brain-stormed lists of all the things you value - a My Favorite Things List, top 10 favorite experiences, favorite friendships and relationships, 10 things about you that you appreciate, and 10 things you appreciate about someone in your life who is difficult for you. Notice how you feel and your body sensations as you write out these lists.
How has the metal element quality of VALUE
supported your life story?
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of VALUE to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
When was the last time you felt inspired by something... sso inspired that it moved you to some focused action, impulse or awakening? Do you remember what created the stir of excitement within you to then be in the flow of the new idea you were exploring?
I can vividly recall the rush of excitement learning the principles of Feng Shui, the Color Your World image system, photography basics, and of course resonance repatterning and now integral theory. Each of these concepts provided new learning, new ideas, new ways of creating fulfillment in my life. The phrase "been there, done that, bought the video and TShirt" certainly applies here!
How Inspiration Helps....The coherent state of being inspired is accompanied by other positive states of being that tend to open us up to higher states of conscious awareness. These qualities can help us add to the amazing story of our life that we tell ourselves.
The quality of 'openness to experience and absorption' -in any situation, spontaneous inspiration may occur when we take a position of allowing a new learning or idea to be received without hasty judgment. Think about it... how often do you nix an idea from someone before you have heard all the details? Do you hear yourself saying '...we can't because..'? When you can take the time to explore something (without commitment or judgment) you are opening to a possibility of inspiration.
States of Flow - When we are inspired by something and engage in the possibilities it holds for us personally, we tend to feel more confident, competent, optimistic and well about ourselves. This may also accompany a state of motivation and desire to get things done that puts us in a state of flow.
Meaning and Fulfillment - In a full-out inspired flow state, we are motivated to master our work, stay absorbed and focused on something we are learning. We also feel creative. These states of inspiration helps us to find meaning in our everyday experiences and want to share our experiences with others.
How has the metal element quality of INSPIRATION supported your life story?
How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of inspiration to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
The Energy Season of EARTH Element
Quality #2 - Security
How does a feeling of security show up in your life?
Our Earth element quality of security is supported when we take actions such as - lock our doors, drive carefully minding all the traffic rules, mind our belongings out in public, scrutinize too good to be true email offers, memorize passwords, or put valuables in a safety deposit box. It requires us to be discerning, careful and take right timely action.
When we take actions that support our security we can feel relaxed, at peace and have a sense of inner freedom that allows us to venture out into the world. We also know the boundaries for our security and have a sense when our security is compromised or threatened. Many victims of violence report afterwards that they had a sense something bad was going to happen but failed to do take simple actions like crossing the street to avoid a perpetrator.
However, if we are too paranoid about our security we can go overboard with self protection actions. For many people, the pandemic has accelerated this feeling perhaps making it challenging to re-enter the world and feel safe there. Mushrooming security fears may cause us to energetically cut ourselves off from the world for self protection and not live our life fully. We can become constrained by the onset of unfounded fears and anxieties.
What qualities of security do you resonate with?
Non Coherent Aspects:
I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of SECURITY try the Transitions Repatterning for the Earth element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!
With light and love
The Energy Season of EARTH Element
Quality #1 - Reaping the Harvest
The 5th Season - Are you aligning with the seasonal energy patterns and all of their respective positive qualities? While the calendar points out 4 distinct seasons that energetically each line up with a season (Fall, Winter, Spring, Summer), there is hidden 5th energy season to be aware of. The 'season' of EARTH ELEMENT. This seasonal energy happens 4 times per year for a few weeks in between each season and also has with it a number of related qualities that you can activate to support yourself. You could think of it as the seasonal energy of TRANSITIONS.
Have you noticed how your day is affected by this energy?
Energetically, we are now in the 'in-between' season of Earth Element that happens between summer and fall in the northern hemisphere. Here in Toronto we could really feel the arrival of this energy with a dramatic drop in temperature going from sweltering daytime highs of 105 °F to the low 70's °F. The chill in the air brings a reminder that carefree days of summer fun are over and it's time to get ready for...going back to work or school or get ready for the winter. The markets are flourishing with the season's harvest of plums, pears, the last of the peaches and corn and more. It used to be a time of year when many households would can or 'put up' their garden harvests - an activity the synchs up perfectly with the Earth Element quality of "Reaping the Harvest". Many small towns and cities celebrate with an end of season 'fair' for a last hurrah of summer fun while celebrating the local harvests.
Reaping Your Harvest
Our current transitional energy asks us to review the seeds (or goals/intentions) we planted last spring. Now it's time to take stock of all that we have planted and reap our harvest whether it is your garden produce or metaphorically your life plans, your work, your projects, etc. For example...
At work - It's a great time to evaluate your targets and plans at work, celebrate successes, and appreciate accomplishments. Any regrets?
Personal Plans - How did your plans for personal growth and change work out? Did therapy, alternative healing or growth webinars help you? (or Holographic Coaching with me?) Name one new insight about yourself that you attained in the last few months.
Learning New Things - life today especially online is all about fearlessly learning new things or ways of doing things. What did you learn in the last few months and how is it helping you? What do you have left to learn? Have you mastered an aspect of social media, google docs or something on your computer? Did you finish the webinars you bought this year and use them to their fullest?
Relationships - What effort did you put in to get around all the covid restrictions and the post covid challenges to reconnect with others as restrictions were lifted? How have your relationships with others benefitted? .
Reap the harvest of your life experiences and notice your energy in the next 2-3 weeks. How is it changing for you?
What qualities of Reaping the Harvest do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)
How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of Reaping the Harvest to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of Reaping the Harvest try the Transitions Repatterning for the Earth element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!
Our final weekly focus for the Fire Element season of summer is the quality of JOY. What fills you with joy, exuberant self expression, blissful abandon and happiness?
When was the last time you can recall being in a state of joy?
As we travel our personal holographic universe, resolving life issues and getting our needs met can be challenging causing our daily focus to default towards problems. We may get into a bad habit of starting the day wondering what shoe will drop now or what big problem is coming my way? ...soon forgetting our personal goals and what makes us happy and content.
However, if our Fire Element energy is coherent and balanced, the summer time season may especially help us to activate our natural quality of joy - despite life's obstacles.
When we feel joy or remember a time when we were joyful, it brings with it a very high energizing frequency and rush of endorphins that helps us manage life's problems efficiently. We feel healthy and optimistic. We enjoy the day making the best of miserable weather or other circumstances, always finding a reason to smile or enjoy life. In a state of natural joy we tend to light up a room and set others vibrating with joy as well.
GET MORE JOY... Joy is a quality that may be cultivated and truly help us create a positive life story.
For example we can make a daily habit of naming and letting go of our regrets and listing all of our appreciations...Or - we can take some time to notice the beauty of nature and the inner light of people who surround us.
Try any of these actions and get in touch with the feeling of unexplained joy.
You will be uplifted.
What qualities of JOY do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)
How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of JOY to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?
I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of Joy try the Summer Season Repatterning for the Fire element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!
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